Love There are various kinds of love with even more definitions of each. One popular version might be described as the desire for two people to spend their lives together, with a continuing compassion for each other through good and bad times.  Joseph Addison (1672-1719) puts it quite nicely this way: "Two persons who have chosen each other out of all the species with a design to be each other's mutual comfort and entertainment have, in that action, bound themselves to be good-humored, affable, discreet, forgiving, patient, and joyful, with respect to each other's frailties and perfections, to the end of their lives."  Of course it isn't always easy because conflicts about ideas, choices and habits arise. Some of these conflicting situations are easy to overlook while others can be very annoying, upsetting, and continual. Some personal mannerisms of one may never suit those of the other, and compromise cannot always be reached. Parting ways might seem inevitable, but often relaxing and rethinking the whole picture can result in a positive turn.  For example, many difficulties in a friendship, including marriage, can be put to the back by the simple act of resignation. By accepting certain personal conditions as permanent, they will somehow become more acceptable. Eventually the conflicting ideas may not be much of an issue, thanks to resignation. This leaves more room for mutual contentment and fondness.  Has the other's point of view been considered earnestly? How about a commitment to doing things that are basically unfavorable if it will improve the relationship? What are the other's favorable traits and conditions that are being overlooked? Nobody has to be perfect!  "If you wished to be loved, love."






Meditation

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Meditation has long been known in Eastern religions as a way to reduce tension and attain peace of mind. There are variations some of which might not be suitable to everyone or if practiced in the extreme. This topic is worth studying if you are having trouble breaking the anxiety and stress habits.

Some basic meditating might easily replace stress and tenseness with peace of mind and relaxation.

An over simplified effort might be:
  
Find a quiet place by yourself.
Get in a relaxed position.   
Rest your eyes downward, almost closed, not tight.   
Breathe slowly and naturally.   
Do not think about anything else except what you are doing.   
Do this for 15-20 minutes.

When lying wide awake in bed, or taking a calming break, try fixing your eyes and thoughts on an insignificant mark on the wall, a small glittery area, or perhaps a shadow. Keep staring at this and think of nothing else. As your eyes wander off bring them back to the object. With practice this will often send you off to a dreamy, peaceful state. (This is not advised while on the job or in the classroom.)

"Meditation has been defined as the cessation of active eternal thought"

 

 

Are You Aware of the Adventure?

I work best when I can immerse myself in something for an extended period of time. For example, I immersed myself in blogging for 6 months and did almost nothing else during that time. Now I’m easing up on it and experimenting with something else.
I’ve learned to follow my heart and trust the process. I’ve been following my own path for over half a decade. I’ve trained myself to listen to my heart, even if it sometimes doesn’t make sense.
I’ve received many e-mails from people asking me advice on what they should do with their life. The answer is always the same: follow your heart.
We’ve been taught to look for validation, but when you realize that all you have to do is listen to that thing in your chest, everything becomes much more fun.
You start looking forward to what’s going to happen. I have no idea what I’ll be doing in six months. I’m excited to see what I come up with, where I end up and what I’ll be doing.

I Just Love What I Do …

The last few years of playing poker, I just held on, because I was afraid of letting go. It was familiar and it was the only way I knew how to make a living.
My heart was telling me to play around with websites, but my mind was full of fear.
“It can’t be done! You can’t do it” my mind said to me.
In early 2009, I finally let go. I started building websites and I did what I felt like I wanted to do.
I worked day and night on my early websites, because I loved it.Many have commented on my work ethic, but I don’t see myself as an incredibly hard worker, I just love what I do.
The income from my websites and this blog are what allow me to take months off to study Spanish, take a swim in the pool and walks with the missus.
This is what life is about. Life is about freedom. Life is about doing what you truly feel like doing, even if it doesn’t make any sense at all. Life is about being a child and doing whatever you want.
Have you ever wanted to learn a language, but never felt like you could?
There’s a reason you feel drawn to do the things you want to do. If you don’t start following your excitement today, when will you?
Stop pushing away the things that bring fulfillment, enjoyment and happiness to your life. Start following your hunches and start playing.